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You’ll have to go through many before you find “the ones”

Throughout my life, I’ve always had a couple of emotionally deep, close friends at any given time. Upon moving to Europe in 2013, I blossomed, found more confidence, and cultivated a slightly wider circle of awesome friends.

During four years of living there, I had around eight emotionally deep, supportive, fun friendships. I felt as though I could confide in each of them, and it seemed they felt generally the same about me. …

Here’s a big one

An article in The Atlantic (published April 13th, 2021) says:

Too many U.S. institutions throughout the pandemic have shown little interest in the act of learning while doing.

They etched the conventional wisdoms of March 2020 into stone and clutched their stone-tablet commandments in the face of any evidence that would disprove them.

Liberal readers might readily point to Republican governors who rejected masks and indoor restrictions even as their states faced outbreaks.

But the criticism also applies to deep-blue areas. Los Angeles, for instance, closed its playgrounds and prohibited friends from going on beach walks, long after researchers knew…

Because cheating is far less black and white than we consider.

People cheat for many reasons, some of which may be conscious, others that are more likely to be sub-conscious.

As long as monogamy is the default relationship model and structure, there will be infidelity. This is not to excuse it. This is also not to say that infidelity is not hurtful, nor that it isn’t a huge breach of trust. It is. Just, that as long as we have monogamy, there will also be cheating.

Because we have attached morality to sexual fidelity, many people tend to find cheating synonymous with thoughts such as, “this means my partner doesn’t love…

And, this is time lost that we can never get back

There are many positive, even wonderful things about cell phones.

A lifeline in a true emergency. The ability to track where someone is, again, in an emergency. I’m able to call my four close friends in Europe regularly and have long conversations with them for very little money, through apps like Viber or WhatsApp and thus, can remain closely connected with them.

So, of course, cell phones are not all bad. Like most anything, there are positives and negatives to our devices.

If used incorrectly though (and a lot of us do this), they can take away from our lives…

The types it’s better to avoid rather than pursue a friendship with.

Dr. Jeffrey Hall, a professor at the University of Kansas, found that you can become “good friends” with someone if you spend 120–160 hours with them over the span of a few weeks, and “best friends” if you spend around 200 hours with them over about a month and a half. On the flip side, if you go more than a few months between your first meeting and the next one? A friendship is unlikely to ever form.

In general, it takes 90–200 hours to turn an acquaintance into a close friend.

Thus, friendship takes effort and investment. It’s worth…

Want to maintain optimal health and optimism? Here you go.

They Sometimes Say “No” to Something They’d Like To Eat (or Drink)

As most people know and are sad to acknowledge (me included), a lot of things that taste awesome are terrible for your health and cause a lot of damage when we eat them. Sugar. Wheat. Alcohol. To name a few. It takes effort to exercise discipline, to not always eat everything you want to eat.

Grabbing and devouring everything delicious is the path of least resistance.

It’s also the path to way lesser overall health, weight gain, and more disease.

People who are the healthiest will regularly say “no” to certain things that, in their minds, they’d like to eat…

A few easy steps to bring back effort and romance

Nowadays (COVID notwithstanding), there has become a general approach to dating that entails a sense of disconnection, less investment, and an idea of false abundance. As a result, many people aren’t especially happy with the dating landscape.

There are likely several reasons for this, which could include:

  • We use dating apps to scroll through prospective dates like we might turn the pages in a catalog. Assessing the products within based on their image and a couple of lines of text.

Here are 7 ways it destroys your body and your health

Reason #1: Wheat raises one's blood sugar more than any other food

More than a candy bar, more than soda, you name it.

This leads you to get diabetes. Here’s how.

Wheat is the number one offender for sending blood sugar levels into the stratosphere.

This may apply to a lot of Americans…

American Average Work Hours:

  • At least 134 countries have laws setting the maximum length of the workweek; the U.S. does not.
  • In the U.S., 85.8 percent of males and 66.5 percent of females work more than 40 hours per week.
  • According to the ILO, “Americans work 137 more hours per year than Japanese workers, 260 more hours per year than British workers, and 499 more hours per year than French workers.”
  • Using data by the U.S. BLS, the average productivity per American worker has increased 400% since 1950.

American Paid Vacation Time & Sick Time:

  • There is not a federal law requiring paid sick days in the United States.
  • The U.S…

Because a friendship like this will add much to your life.

When I moved to Europe back in autumn of 2013, the first two friends I made were a man about my age from the Czech Republic and a woman in her sixties from England.

I met both of them when I attended a social gathering via I was trembling as I pulled open the restaurant door and walked in solo. I’d just moved from the Czech Republic to Germany and didn’t yet have any social connections there. I headed inside and sat down at the table I presumed was reserved for the English-German meetup group.

Two other people were…

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