Are You Emotionally Healthy Enough to Have Good Relationships?

Some people generally have successful, happy, and healthy relationships, while others seem frequently to struggle in this.

Brooke Meredith


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If occasionally, you experience challenges in your relations with others, this is normal. Close connections with other human beings will, to a degree and at times, involve some challenge and navigation of difficulty. We all make mistakes and have bad moments. Thus, even great relationships can have tough times here and there.

If, however, you find yourself often going through challenges with others, and frequently experiencing relationships as dramatic, strained, unhappy, or even ending altogether (you’ve gone through many different friends over the years, and have had turbulent romances), this may signify a need to more closely examine your own behavior and emotional health since you are the constant in that equation.

We all know at least one person, and maybe a few like this. The person who routinely has troubles in a few or many of their relationships. The one who dates a succession of people with whom it just never seems to work out, with whom the relationship is a letdown, and who exhibited various red flags. The person who tends to cause drama in their connections with others, as well as, who chooses others to relate with who are not so emotionally healthy, of good character, or even all that nice.

This is because we tend to be attracted to, as well as attract, people like ourselves.

Healthy people are not generally attracted to, at least for any enduring period of time, unhealthy people.

They figure it out and then run the other way, back toward people who are emotionally healthy, like themselves.

And, unhealthy people tend to struggle in connecting with healthy people. This is because they do not know how to relate to others in healthy ways. They are used to disconnection, drama, emotional unhealthiness, and dysfunctional patterns, so they will have difficulty in finding common ground, relating to, communicating with, and feeling comfortable with those who are emotionally on an even keel.