I never said lust and desire were unimportant in the article. I agree. Love without desire is, like you said, friendship and is platonic. I am merely pointing out that all the movies, books, and even real-life people who claim “I’m in love” after a few weeks, that this may be lust and excitement and immense liking, but that they simply do not know the person well enough yet for it to be real love. That’s it…