Quit Chasing or Clinging to Partners Who Aren’t Making Significant Time for You.

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Cases in point…

The guy or gal who responds to a text after several hours plus, their responses leaving much to be desired. And sometimes, they may not respond at all. The recipient, though, lighting up on receiving (finally!) a response. See, they do like and care about me, this recipient convinces themselves.

Unavailable: lacking significant ability, whether emotionally, time-wise, because of other life commitments, or personality issues, to be an emotionally mature, emotionally available, and present partner.

One who is able and willing to do at least half the work to be an engaged, healthy, respectful, and good partner.

One young woman I know has chosen a succession of boyfriends including the following:

Stop settling for people who give you bits and pieces. Stop sticking with people who keep you waiting around.

You can find people who will be thrilled to offer you far more.

How to find them? You must have the courage to release the ones who are not able to offer this. That makes room for the ones to enter your life who can and will.

You don’t have to settle for scraps.

Fervent writer. Ravenous reader. Impassioned with words. Relationship researcher. Social Scientist. Social Justice Advocate. Author. www.brookeenglish.com

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