Signs of a Diseased Culture.

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Symptoms of a diseased culture:

-The leader, chosen by that very culture to run it, is a misogynistic, racist, rapist, hateful, horrible human being. And still, much of that culture continues to applaud and support him.

-The main mode of selecting one’s sex partners (or, in seeking a romantic one) has become via a left or right swipe on a cell phone.

-That we live to work, instead of living to grow and become.

-We routinely dismiss and even outright ignore human beings for whom we care (and are right in front of us), for electronic devices. Unable to put them aside for longer than a handful of minutes, ever tethered to their updates and dings.

-We are told (or more accurately, pressured and guilted) into thinking that people must ever remain close with and connected to their family, simply by nature of the label “family” and the sharing of similar blood. That no matter how toxic or hurtful these people might be, we are obligated to endure it, by nature of their being our DNA relation. This is messed up, dismissive, and misplaced thinking. And it keeps a lot of people in connections that are deeply harmful to them.

-People are either too fat or too skinny. They are never just “enough.” Instead, they should be ever striving toward a nearly impossible ideal. This “should” be a central pursuit and priority of one’s life. Otherwise, good luck finding anyone to love you.

-An entire sex (women) feel compelled, pressured, or drawn toward cutting open and surgically altering their bodies and outer appearance in order to feel more comfortable, accepted, or desired by that culture, as well as the opposite sex.

-And further, that entire sex is deemed lesser than the other sex. That by means of their having different genitals, whole broad sweeping, false, illogical assumptions have been made and stereotypes formed, such as a lesser intellect, less valuable voice, and lesser overall worth, to name a few.

-It was found across multiple large scale studies that between 65% and 98% of women worldwide have experienced persistent street harassment which alters the course of their day.

-Most people are routinely overstressed, overtired, and tend toward also being significantly overweight.

-Sexual abuse of children exists. The fact that any adult human can look at a child as a sexual thing. That is about as sick and terrifying as it gets.

-As well as abuse towards animals.

-Rape is an actual thing, and still a rampant one.

-We equate status, money, and “looking perfect” with *finally* reaching what we feel is the ladder rung of a “good” (and most importantly, enviable) life. That these are the values for which most of us strive is a sad thing.

-We choose partners frequently based on their looks, salary, or other superficial traits as opposed to inner character, such as kindness, ability to truly listen, interest in personal growth, a sense of honesty, and levels of empathy.

-We think books like “50 Shades of Gray” are synonymous with love and romance. A story which details a possessive, emotionally closed, controlling, angry man who does not allow the woman he supposedly loves to choose her own friends, clothing, diet, etc. Instead, he controls her every move, essentially stalks her, and is almost totally emotionally unavailable.

-A woman’s chance of being sexually assaulted in her life is 1 in 5. While a man’s is 1 in 75.

-Eating disorders run rampant, from women (most often, it is women) starving themselves, to making themselves throw up, or severely restricting their eating.

-We remain in relationships, and sometimes for years, (romantic, friendship, or other) which either do not fill us, aren’t healthy, or even, make us miserable.

-The concept of spending time with oneself, going solo, or having solitary time to think and just be, is apparently something to avoid at all costs, considered terrifying, and dubbed a bad thing. When in actuality and by numerous mental health professionals and philosophers alike, the opposite has been concluded on the ability to feel comfortable with, even revel in, as well as prioritize alone time for oneself.

-We are deemed morally wrong or lacking if we do not toil away our life as a “workaholic” and dedicate most of our waking hours, time, and priority to our jobs.

-Women continue to dominate in lower-wage work sectors, with scant benefits, and slim opportunity to accrue wealth. A 2015 analysis of women’s labor between 2010 and 2016 found that, despite women’s academic success and legal forward strides, the top job for women in the US is: secretary and administrative assistant.

-We are the only peer nation that does not require employers to offer paid family or maternal leave.

-One entire sex is responsible for and carries the burden of birth control, while the other sex essentially gets off scot-free.

-All while conservative, old, republican, white men are most often those who make the decisions with regard to what women can and cannot do with their bodies, what are acceptable ways (or not) that women “should” behave. A stunning contradiction to the above point.

-Women who do not want to get pregnant, have babies, or be mothers are considered freakish, incomplete, unfeminine, and even ignorant of their “real” desires. That the choice not to have children inevitably means being shamed, insulted, and even bullied, sometimes by one’s own family. That women who do not want children frequently have to deal with insensitive “jokes”, about ticking clocks, certain regret, becoming “cat ladies”, or not being “real” women.

Folks, we’ve got a lot of work to do with regard to values and behaviors within our current cultural landscape.

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