We Need Endings. A New Way To Look At Breakups.

Endings, while often times anxiety provoking and deeply painful, are necessary closings in order to move on to the next chapter of our lives.

So, what if, instead of thinking of a break up as the ultimate failure and a terrible thing, we re-framed our thinking about this unavoidable and even favorable life scenario? Not necessarily favorable in the moment, as breakups and endings often bring with them pain, loss, and anxiety of the unknown waiting on the other side of said ending. But they are absolutely favorable in the long-run and over the big picture. Endings clear out the dust that has long been accumulating, where it desperately needs a dusting, a window opened and a gusting of fresh air to blow through.

If we avoid these endings, ducking out of their way, sweeping them under the rug, and living in denial and fear, we cannot possibly make way for the new that so needs to come in.

Endings are crucial, as they make way for further growth. They make space for things that will be better matches for us going forward. Avoiding necessary endings keeps us stuck. It halts our possibilities in life, keeps us in situations and relationships that are no longer to our best advantage and growth potential.

Acknowledging, facing, and acting in accordance with necessary endings leads us to our greatest joy and growth inducing relationships, jobs, and life situations.

We need endings. Breaking up and/or walking away from something is, at the times when needed, an important, normal, and even positive incidence of a chapter ending.

Fervent writer. Ravenous reader. Impassioned with words. Relationship researcher. Social Scientist. Social Justice Advocate. Author. www.brookeenglish.com

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