Why We Stay in Relationships Which Have Reached Their Endpoint, Are Unhealthy, or Even Toxic.

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We confuse ‘need’ with love.

Plethoras of people assume that because they feel a “need” for their partner, this means they also love their partner.

We live our lives led by fear, rather than what is sometimes difficult (though healthier) truth.

When people stay in relationships that are no longer healthy or functional, those which have long since expired, this is living by the dictation of fear.


It can be scary, as well as deeply painful, to have to face, acknowledge, and admit that someone you love is not so good for you, and even, that maybe they never were.

We forget all that exists beyond the very small, limited bubble which we know.

Image your life and all of what it involves is a small circle. Go ahead and draw this on a piece of paper. A circle, maybe the size of a quarter.

Dare to live your life differently.

Emotionally mature, fully developed, brave, and emotionally healthy adults let go of things that are no longer working for them. Jobs, living situations, friendships, family connections, and romantic relationships.

For further reading…

(I highly recommend checking out two poignant reads on this topic: How to Be an Adult in Relationships by David Ricco, and Necessary Endings: The Employees, Businesses, and Relationships That All of Us Have to Give Up in Order to Move Forward by Dr. Henry Cloud. Both of these are thought-changing, and thus, life-changing books).

Fervent writer. Ravenous reader. Impassioned with words. Relationship researcher. Social Scientist. Social Justice Advocate. Author. www.brookeenglish.com

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